Autism and anxiety are closely connected, yet anxiety in autistic children and adults is often misunderstood, overlooked or misattributed. In Episode 20 of The William Gomes Podcast, William Gomes offers a calm, compassionate exploration of why anxiety is so common in autism and how it develops over time.
In this episode, Gomes explains that autistic anxiety does not arise in isolation. Instead, it builds through the combined impact of unpredictability, sensory overload, communication challenges and cumulative emotional strain. Everyday environments that feel manageable for non-autistic people can place a continuous emotional load on autistic nervous systems, gradually increasing stress and vigilance.
The discussion explores how uncertainty plays a central role in autistic anxiety. Unexpected changes, unclear expectations and rapidly shifting social demands can leave autistic individuals feeling unsafe or overwhelmed, even when there is no obvious external threat. Gomes highlights how the brain’s need for predictability is not a preference, but a protective mechanism that helps regulate emotion and attention.
Sensory processing differences are also examined in depth. Loud noises, bright lighting, crowded spaces and conflicting sensory input can keep the body in a state of heightened alert. Over time, this constant sensory pressure contributes to chronic anxiety, fatigue and emotional exhaustion.
William also reflects on the role of past experiences. Repeated misunderstandings, social correction, masking and unmet needs can shape how autistic individuals anticipate future situations. Anxiety, in this sense, becomes a learned response to environments that have previously felt unsafe or overwhelming.
Rather than framing anxiety as a problem to be managed or eliminated, the episode invites listeners to think relationally and environmentally. Gomes explains how calm communication, predictability, sensory awareness and emotional validation can significantly reduce anxiety without forcing autistic individuals to suppress their feelings.
Throughout the episode, the focus remains on compassion rather than correction. Anxiety is presented not as a flaw, but as meaningful information about emotional load, unmet needs and nervous system strain.
This episode is particularly relevant for parents, educators, clinicians and mental health professionals seeking to understand autistic anxiety in a deeper, more humane way.
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