A compassionate exploration of co-regulation, highlighting how connection, steadiness, and emotional safety help autistic children regulate and engage with the world around them.
In The William Gomes Podcast episode “Co-Regulation and Connection: How Adults Support Autistic Nervous Systems,”William Gomes explains co-regulation as the process through which a child draws calm and stability from trusted adults. Rather than focusing on fixing emotions or demanding composure, the episode reframes support as presence, predictability, and acceptance.
How Co-Regulation Works
The discussion explores how autistic children are often highly attuned to tone, rhythm, and emotional energy. Gomes explains why a steady adult presence can ease overwhelm even when no words are exchanged, and how children frequently seek regulation through proximity, shared activity, or quiet connection rather than verbal reassurance.
This perspective shifts attention from technique to relationship, recognising that regulation often happens implicitly and relationally.
Becoming a “Safe Person”
A central theme of the episode is the importance of being a “safe person.” Gomes highlights how everyday interactions, consistency, and emotional attunement build trust over time—often long before distress becomes visible.
These relational foundations, the episode argues, are critical in helping children move from states of survival into connection, communication, and growth.
Co-Regulation as a Foundation, Not an Add-On
The episode invites listeners to see co-regulation not as an optional strategy, but as an essential foundation for autistic wellbeing. By prioritising calm, predictability, and relational safety, adults can support children’s nervous systems in ways that foster long-term resilience and emotional health.
Part of an Ongoing Autism Series
Part of an ongoing autism series on The William Gomes Podcast, this episode is intended for parents, educators, and professionals seeking a deeper understanding of autistic regulation and the central role of relationships in supporting development.
Listen to the Episode
Apple Podcasts
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-william-gomes-podcast/id1582677051?i=1000740972082
Spotify
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0FxMx2yYIH99Zro4Kafuaz?si=0d79c0889e1544a7
YouTube
https://youtu.be/2Q5KnKOdLXI?si=tEQ3o6EiDGeonwls
The William Gomes Podcast continues to publish high-quality, neurodiversity-affirming discussions that support families and professionals in understanding autistic development, regulation, and emotional wellbeing through empathy and connection.
