A compassionate challenge to persistent misconceptions about social motivation in autism, offering a more nuanced understanding of how autistic people seek, value, and experience connection.
In Episode 16 of The William Gomes Podcast, “Social Motivation in Autism – Wanting Connection in a Different Way,”William Gomes explores why autistic individuals may sometimes appear socially withdrawn despite having a strong desire for meaningful relationships.
The episode explains how sensory overload, cognitive effort, and past social experiences shape when, how, and with whom autistic people choose to connect.
Rethinking Social Withdrawal
Rather than framing reduced social participation as a lack of interest, the discussion highlights the role of social fatigue and environmental demands. Gomes explains that many autistic people value deep, genuine relationships but may avoid situations that feel overwhelming, unpredictable, or emotionally draining.
This reframing shifts attention away from deficit-based interpretations and toward a more accurate understanding of autistic social decision-making.
Challenging Stereotypes and Supporting Connection
The episode also examines how stereotypes about autism and social motivation can lead to misunderstanding and exclusion. By recognising that social interest may be expressed in quieter, less conventional, or highly selective ways, families, educators, and professionals can create environments that support connection without pressure to conform.
Part of an Ongoing Autism Series
Episode 16 forms part of a wider autism series on The William Gomes Podcast, contributing to ongoing conversations about neurodiversity, inclusion, and mental wellbeing. Across the series, the emphasis remains on understanding over assumption and compassion over compliance.
Listen to Episode 16
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https://youtu.be/lZbh9cHBK-c?si=ksj-lhZEcfWUPC6G
The William Gomes Podcast is an independent podcast series exploring autism, child development, and neurodiversity through compassionate, theory-informed conversations designed to support families and professionals.
